The Relationship Help Resort (also know as The Healing Resort) was created out of extraordinary relational technology. After many years of feeling hopeless, angry, confused, frustrated, resentful and a complete relational failure, I was desperate to understand why relationships fail. Well, I found the answer and out of those answers, I created a relationship and communication technology that transformed my relationships, and thousands of relationships since then. This unique and insightful technology is easy-to-understand and implement, and provides real answers to finding personal and professional insight that directly lead to relational joy, peace and happiness.
I am the first one to admit that relationships are difficult to manage and maintain. I understand first-hand what tears marriages apart. Although I have been an advocate for marriage for over 45 years, I remember all too well when my marriage begin to fall apart. I was married for 20 years. But then sadly, went through a divorce (a long story similar to anyone who is struggling in their relationship), but that fueled the fire within me to dedicate myself to understanding the root causes of the discontent, resentment, bitterness that ultimately leads too many couples to divorce.
I researched diligently, studied unceasingly, and created a way to help people fall in love once again by understanding the causes of relational destruction and finding the solution. After 12 years of being divorced, I used these same powerful secrets to recreate and save my marriage. Yes, after 12 years, my husband, and father of my children, and I remarried. The second time I said "I DO" I had a much better understanding of what I was saying and that is why the second time married is thousands of times better than the first. I will happily share these amazing relationship healing secrets with you.
Now you can choose to attend the Relationship Help Resort with Dawn Billings in person, or you can take advantage of her over forty years of experience working with couples to enhance or heal your relationship from the comfort of your own home with Relationship Help At Home, a 26 week curriculum designed to help you gain insight into yourself and your partner, and teach you all of the relationship and communication skills you need to improve and breathe new life into your relationships.
Couple's Counseling facts
2. What the heck does it mean to communicate anyway?
Most of the time relationship problems are not created by a lack of communication, but by communication that is more damaging than it is beneficial. Couples most often are in need of a “new, more positive” way to communicate. Most relationship problems stem from couples continuing to communicate in ways that push each other away, hurt one another’s feelings, demean or belittle one another, frustrate and enrage one another, instead of bringing them closer together.
Take yourself out of the normal environment. Give yourselves a fabulous weekend to learn a new way to communicate by understanding your personality tendencies and appreciating what each of you bring to your relationship. How can you expect to communicate lovingly and effectively if you don’t even understand the principles behind great communication. The goal is to “communicate where each partner feels heard and understood. It is only then that you can begin to get to the root of problems.
3. There is no ‘magic pill’ that fixes relationships.
Many issues that bring couples to to their knees are not easily fixed with a magic pill. Healing requires time, effort, heart, compassion and dedication. If betrayal is an issue, your families are presenting problems, you don’t see eye-to-eye on parenting styles, or your anger has stolen your feelings of passion, you can’t heal these issues overnight. But you can begin the healing process. Understand that healing is a process, and a very natural one at that. As human beings we are made to heal. It is one of the miracles of being human. We fall down, break a bone, burn our hand on the stove, cut ourselves with a knife, our bodies are made to begin the healing process. It is in the process that we rebuild even stronger from whatever the break. A couples healing retreat can help you begin the powerful process of healing instead of staying stuck in the cycle of re-inflicting, or enflaming a relational wound.
4. WHY we don’t spend most of our time on the “why” of issues.
Instead of focusing our time and energy on “Why do you always do this, why he never does that? At the Relationship Help Resort couples retreat we focus on “HOW & WHAT”. How do you communicate in a way that strengthens your bond and helps you genuinely love and understand one another?” “What are the steps to healing the broken pieces of your hearts?” I believe there is too much time spent indulging couples in going over and over past hurts.
“Too often, couples get stuck in their desire to ‘be right’. They want to tell their side of a story over and over, placing blame and fault where they believe it belongs. to find fault.” In my experience as a couple’s counselor I have found that there is always enough fault to go around and that it is easy to sink into the pit of despair of past hurts. Instead at the Relationship Help Resort couples retreat we spend most of the time working out a step-by-step plan for the future, rather than continuing to dunk one another in the quicksand created by the pain of the past.
5. You won’t emerge from your couple’s retreat with a perfect union.
Perfection doesn’t exist; life is real and full of inherent challenges. Nothing and no one can make your life or your relationship a ‘bed of rose petals’. Even beautiful roses have thorns. The secret to creating a great relationship is learning how to move together through the inevitable ups and downs of life. There are seasons in a relationship and just like the weather, you must know how to appropriately prepare for the cold Winter moments, as well as effortlessly enjoying the beautiful Spring moments.
6. Like all successful games, love has rules.
The rules of love are not there to hinder, burden, or restrict love, they are there to protect,
strengthen and encourage love. Both people in a relationship fare far better when they
know the rules of a game and what actions cause you to win, and what actions are
responsible for losing. At the couple’s retreat there are loving, respectful and protective
ground rules. They are the same rules that protect and strengthen the relationship after
the retreat experience. For example, at the Healing Resort you find a safe haven where
you are not allowed to physically attack anyone, or even hurt each other with words.
The retreat is not a place where people and relationships are torn apart, but where they
are carefully, lovingly and respectfully put back together.
7. Are you doomed if all you do is argue?
No. Couples who are flat and unresponsive and apathetic probably have already given up. If you are arguing, it is the perfect time to seek out a wonderful couples retreat to help you direct that passion in a healthier and more healing way. Realize that if the two of you are still engaged with each other—even if engagement is defined by frustration, confusion, yelling and possible even name calling—you have a real chance (if you want to take advantage of it) to save your marriage.
8. There’s not one, ideal form of couple’s therapy.
Couples counselors come in every gender, every color, from many different schools of thought and with many different approaches. When you are talking about healing a marriage, or strengthening a relationship, one-size does not fit all. That is why the Relationship Help Resort retreat focuses on each personality and how those personalities best uniquely fit together.
Choose to experience The Healing Resort: Before you consider traditional “therapy”, before you end a marriage and tear a family apart, before you give in to your hopelessness, look into a vacation that can save a marriage.
What have you got to lose to try it?
Only each other.
1. Don’t wait until your marriage is hanging by its last thread to consider getting help.
If your marriage is hanging by a thread, do not stop, do not pass go, pack your clothes and get here fast. Too many couples choose to do nothing to strengthen their relationship until they’re either on the verge of divorce or have already made the decision to leave the relationship and need a way to actualize it. The couple's retreat can give you a final opportunity to save your broken relationship, but attend before you are standing on your last leg. Think about a marriage retreat the way you would about adding more vegetables to your diet or beginning to exercise to strengthen your endurance and muscle mass. Think about taking time for a relationship retreat while you are not at your wits end because it is genuinely good for your ongoing relationship health.
This online communication and advanced personality training provides you with step-by-step solutions to your relationship struggles while sitting at home.
95% of all couples who get divorced cite "an inability to communicate" as their motivating factor. Learn to communicate in powerful, effective, healthy and fulfilling ways.
The Relationship-Help at Home Online Communication Program will provide you with pre-assessments and post-assessments, video training with relationship, personality and communication expert, Dawn Billings.
Along with all of the video training, you will also gain access to books and helpful articles, exercises and so much more.
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Dawn Billings is the Executive Director of the Relationship Help Resort (The Healing Resort), architect of the highly acclaimed insight and communication tool called Primary Colors Personality Test. Dawn is also the author of over 20 books and hundreds of articles.
Dawn is a relationship, personality and communication expert, helping individuals and couples for over forty years. Dawn is an inventor of patented parenting child-development/communication system and a serial entrepreneur and CEO and founder of several diverse companies, including The Heart Link Women's Network.
For more information visit: www.DawnBillings.com